Always judged

    You can say what you want, it's what's on the inside that matters, it's how you see yourself that's important, only person holding yourself back is you. While yes most of that is sincerely true, in this day and age there's more to it than what meets the eye. Because there are people who feel the need to flaunt their advantages, and why shouldn't they? Reverse the roll and I'm sure they actually feel like there are people better off than themselves. So for them I guess you could say it's defensive. Then there are the offensive people.. You know the ones that are highlighted in those over the top high school movies usually involving a dance and a queen bee? While the movies may be a little dramatic, there are people who actually look for ways to make themselves feel better while putting down those around them.

    With the media, and social networks we are constantly being judged, or at least feel like we are. There are those that can't get enough likes, follows, hearts, and then there are those left wondering why they don't get any. The sad part is ten years ago this wasn't even an issue. In this era though it feels like the stakes are higher than ever at times, our photos, our comments, everything we do virtually is judged. 

    What is the standards being based on? Well for starters I'll be honest looks are what is at the head of the ratings. Vanity is deadly, but it's also controlling, and people with what society defines as attractive, or pleasing to the eyes automatically get a boost ahead of us who lets just say don't lol. 

    The second thing that is judged is talent, and yes looks gets ranked over talent that's not any kind of news.  People with skills, like those that can sing, make music, create things with words, create things with art, and all the other skills out there those things help you stand out, and yes you're judged on them. Because just like you honestly have talent at writing that poem, or taking that black and white photo, there are thousands of others right there with you. 

    Lastly, and I mean lastly as if people actually stay around long enough to get to judge this part. Your personality. Who the real you is underneath all the other stuff. That light that shines from within that sparks into everything else. 

    It's easy to feel like someone is better than you in some area, odds are that they are. However odds are in an area you're better than them. But it's not about trying to outdo other people despite what our society has come to believe. Getting everyone to see that we are all equal, is a nice dream, but it's a long way away from reality. I'm not saying it's impossible as I've met truly sincere kind hearted people who have their hearts on their sleeves, proving what I always like to say "that there is hope, always hope". 

    So until that reality comes to be, other than ignoring things what can we do? Because sometimes you just can't ignore the issues you are facing.  That's when you have to do something most people have trouble with. Reach out and ask for help. You'd be surprised at who might show up.