Just put your arm around someone

    The simple act of putting your arm around someone out of love, or care can mean so much more to people then you could ever imagine. People around us everyday are going through some darkness, just waiting for someone to come through with a light to pull them out. You never know just who around you is hurting, and they may just be scared to admit that they are wanting a little love.
    It's not gonna hurt you to show some simple actions of kindness, its the little things that sometimes make the biggest impressions (and I know that from experience).
    Think back to when you were going through some bad experience, or time in your life. If your able to think back to it, that should mean you've gotten past it (and for me I know it was because someone showed they cared).
    In this world sadly there is so much hurting going on, so I firmly believe that its not a waste of time to try, you can make a persons day with a simple connection. If you have a smile then share it, and you can be the person to help someone.

Attraction

    Attraction is a funny thing, sometimes it comes at the oddest of times. It also seems to be very sudden, like out of the blue you'll see someone, and just get a feeling right then and there. Sometimes I don't think there is always a pattern either, or anything in common with the different people one person is attracted to. 

    You shouldn't base much on attraction because its not stable in my opinion. Sure you think your gonna like the person based on their looks, the way they act, or the personality that you see shine from them, but that's about it you don't see anything definite. 

     So what do you do about the attractions? Well I guess it depends on how attracted you are, there's no harm in simply trying to get closer to the person (just be careful). Other times its best to just leave the attraction to your fantasies, especially if your pretty sure nothing can come from it.

    People are attracted every day they can't help it, it doesn't mean they love that person per say, its just something about that person was enough to spark some interest lol.

Taking a risk, sometimes worth it

     It's kinda late as I'm writing this, and honestly even though I have a lot on my mind lately, today was a good day. 

     Those moments you realize your smarter, stronger, and braver than you think are probably some of the best moments you'll experience in this life. Sometimes it takes hearing something from someone important of that you've known awhile and trust, and sometimes it's just meeting someone new, and they don't have to say anything specific but just by being themselves I don't know makes things click.  When people respect you, care for you, and/or value you (I don't know about everyone else, but personally) it makes you feel like your doing things right. 

     Yes today I did hear some encouraging words from a good friend, and I got to talk to two specific new people, one listened to what I had to say, and the other just sincerely influenced me (and I hope that, that particular friendship goes somewhere, or even forms I guess).

    If anything today was filled with me trusting, or simply taking chances with people who I don't know, and it honestly eased my mind whether it was talked about or simply just meeting someone new. I think it broke down a few walls that I keep up, and I hope they continue to keep falling. (I do know I don't need to over expect anything, or get my hopes up, because it very well may be I read something out of nothing) but today showed me that sometimes when you take the risk, it's worth it in the end, so I'm gonna try to try more with others.

Time is fleeting

     Do you ever feel like time is on fast forward and your being pushed along watching things go by? I know I do ha. It seems like things speed up but you have no clue where it's going to drop you off (off it even will). Then when you think about the past, I mean really think about it, and all those memories come flooding in. The good, the bad, the ones you'd rather forget, and the ones you'll fight till the end to hold on to. 

    School season started once again and I've heard people say thier lives start once they are out. But I disagree, doesn't everything that has come to be mean anything? Or was it all for nothing? The past in my opinion is just as important as the future, so don't discredit yours. 

     And since time is fleeting, make sure you make the most of the present.

Thoughts from a book

    So I finished reading the book Wicked (the life and times of the wicked witch of the west), and it got me thinking about things. Have you ever felt like your doing all this good stuff for other people, but only have it blow up in your face by ending up bad? So does doing something with good intentions but having bad results make the deed bad, and vice versa does doing something with bad intentions only to end up with good results make it a good deed?

    I don't think people start off bad, yet I also don't think it takes something huge to make someone bad. I think it's little things one after another, and after time something little, but is backed with everything in the past finds a way to crack a person. 

    In the book elpheba (who later is referenced as the wicked witch of the west) tries to do everything good but ends up with deaths, fear, and guilt on her hands, then something small like a pair of shoes being given away just snaps her. I don't believe it was the shoes fully to blame its everything that had been building up, up to that point.

    If you haven't read this book I recommend it, it makes you think, and should not be considered a fast read.

Don't cling to just one person

    We can't let ourselves become attached completely to one person, it's not fair to ourself, or the other person. We're all human, and eventually fail, so if someone were clinging to was to mess up, blow us off, or other things in that area, will be hurt even though there was really no reason. No one person can be there 24/7. 

    Now you can still have people you trust above others that's just a testament to how much you value them. Honestly when push comes to shove you know they will come through, hey look at the past. When you distance yourself from people it's harder when you start trusting because when something gets messed up your first instincts are your gonna be alone again, so you may accidentally read things into stuff that aren't really true.

     You have to keep faith that the relationship you've formed is strong enough to hold together when the wind blows.

All we can do

    Sometimes we have to face the fact that we can't save everyone. Sometimes we won't be able to do anything more then simply say I love you. It's easy to blame ourselves. If we were stronger maybe we could do things differently. However, sometimes people just need to know that someone cares, so maybe when that's all we can do, that's all we really need to.

Feelings

    Do you ever feel like no ones there? Like the people you count on most are just an illusion you've deluded yourself into believing are true? It's easy to do. It's also easy to believe those doubts being whispered into your ears. Usually more or less its the latter.

    You have to believe in yourself that your worth something. You have to believe you have purpose. Because you are, and do. Sometimes though, those doubts we hear are strong enough to leave you crippled. Especially if you hear them from actual people around you, that can feed their power even more.

    You have to trust that the relationships you've built with people are strong, and not let those fears send you spinning backwards. People who like you have their reasons, If they truly didn't wanna be around you they would leave you, and you know what? Let them. It may hurt, but if they wanna bolt let them bolt. You deserve people who wanna be with you. 

Love, just what is it

    Love, what is it? How do we get it? More importantly how do we keep it? For some love seems to come so easily, while others feel as if its never within their reach.

    In my opinion love is a willingness, it's where you would risk everything in order to try and protect someone else. 

    I know that I love the people in my family, as well as I love some my friends, yet honestly I don't know if I have felt that attraction part of love. In this world love seems to be tossed around so carelessly, I mean look at the divorce record sometimes I think people get married saying they love each other when in actuality they are simply bored.

    I may not know everything (or much for that matter) about love, but I think the reason everyone is so desperate to find it, is because honestly it's the closest thing we have to magic.