Self validation

    Well let me start off by saying if you're looking in other people for self validation, it won't matter what anyone says. Self validation comes from within. You have to be able to say you've earned it by your standards. For some people that's not an easy thing to accomplish. We all have a tendency to criticize ourselves much harder than we do others.
    No matter how other people see us will never fully give us the self validation were seeking, so trying to change ourselves, or just act in a way that would please someone in order to get validation from them, won't work. No one can give us what we are looking for in that area. However, the moment we accept this and stop looking for validation from other people, is the moment when we've accepted ourselves. (and that's self validation, when you think your what you need to be).