Trying too hard, or not enough?

    Have you ever felt like you're trying to hard, or perhaps not trying hard enough with some people in your life? Either one can have bad results to be honest. When you don't try much with people you care about in order to give them space there is always the chance it comes accross as you don't hold as much value in them as you might in actuality. Then when you try to hard at times you can come off as needy, and pathetic. 

    So how do you find a good middle? Sadly the answer for every person varies, because ever person is unique. So you have to get to know how the said person reacts, where some people are ok with stuff like handshakes, and others would be more open to hugs. Test your boundaries, and make notes about when they react badly. 

    The closer the person is to you the easier it will be to determine, a little tip I'd say is to trust what you know to be true, don't let doubts and insecurities cloud your judgement on the situations.